Posts Tagged 'Slight Feminist Rant'

Go Kendra, Go Kendra

That former playmate Kendra Wilkinson (one of Hugh Hefner’s ex-girlfriends) has a sex tape really comes as no surprise. But what I have found surprising is her own reaction to the story, as she described herself as “humiliated” and “betrayed” It’s a relatively complicated story; some sources reporting that she was already aware of the tape and others even suggesting that she previously tried to sell the tapes. The blogosphere is full of articles relating to it. But I want to talk about a slightly different aspect to the story that concerns me… Why is she so ashamed?

For someone whose entire career (and I use the term “career” lightly) is based around her sex appeal it is surprising that a sex tape could cause such a reaction. One of Ms. Wilkinson’s main concerns is that her husband or young child may see the footage. This same concern was never expressed about her Playboy photographs. Apparently highly sexual, revealing and pseudo-lesbian photos such as the one below are okay by Ms. Wilkinson standards. She seems to take little issue with her family seeing pictures of her in a state of undress with her mouth open. (A woman’s mouth in pornography, as well as in popular culture usually symbolises her openness to penetration.) But if anyone was to see her actually perform fellatio, well that’s downright disgusting, no? One thing that has always bothered me is society’s obsession with women as “sexy” but never sexual beings. We do not live in Victorian times. We know that women do receive pleasure by having sex. These kinds of reactions also perpetuate the idea that it is acceptable for a grown woman to dress, dance and act sexy, but to actually have and enjoy sex is wrong or shameful.

Her numerous photographs for Playboy serve only as sexual stimulation for men. A women takes no physical pleasure (although she is often encourages to look otherwise) from having her nude photo taken. There is numerous images of women faking orgasm in Playboy and other magazines. But Ms. Wilkinson and her PR reps seem to think that if the public watch her actually orgasm that it could be damaging to her “brand” and “image”.

Just another typically stupid response and double standard from a country obsessed with porn but critical of sex.


Rude Boy (And Even Ruder Girls)

There are a few things in life that make me feel like I’m getting old. One is when I receive wedding invitations from my friends (Congratulations Trish!), another is when I find myself talking  about furniture upholstery for any prolonged period of time. But the one that happens most frequently is when I am shocked or appalled by contemporary pop music. The latest culprit is Rihanna’s latest single ‘Rude Boy’.

Don’t get me wrong, I quite like Rihanna. And I respect her more than most popstars for being upfront about her sexuality and for never or pretending she doesn’t quite “get” what her lyrics are saying. Anyone with half a brain knows what body part she is referring to when she wonders “can you get it up?” or “is your big enough”? It seems the song was written by Baltimore native Makeba Riddick. You can read an interview with the lyrical genius here.

But her latest single’s lyrics sound like the transcript of a porn film. So, to prove my point and for simplicity (and fun!), I have divided up some of the lyrics to make my own porn script. Character #1 is simply Rude Girl and character #2 is Rude Girl. I have resisted the temptation to add another character into the equation..

Rude Girl: Come here, rude boy, can you get it up? Come here rude boy, is your big enough?
Rude Boy: Take it, take it baby, baby. Take it, take it.
Rude Girl: Love me. Love me.
Rude Boy: Tonight I’ma let you be a rider. Giddy-up, giddy-up, giddy-up babe. Do you like it?
RG: Boy, I want, what you want. Give it to me, baby like boom, boom, boom
RB: Take it, take it, baby, baby, take it, take it
RG: Relax; let me do it how I wanna. If you got it I need it and I’ma put it down Tonight I’ma get a little crazy, get a little crazy, baby
RB: Buckle up; I’ma give it to ya stronger. Heads up; we could go a little longer. Do you like it?
RG: Give it to me, baby like boom, boom, boom
RB: Take it, take it, baby, baby, take it, take it
RG: I like the way you touch me there. I like the way you pull my hair. I like when you tell me ‘kiss you here’. I like when you tell me ‘move it there’. So get it up; time to get it up: you say you a rude boy: show me what you got now
RB: Take it, take it, baby, baby, take it, take it


RG: Come here right now

Yes, it really is a charming love story. I actually wanted to find the transcript of an actual porn movie for comparison but it turns out they are few and far between… It seems people are too busy doing other things with their hands than transcribe what everyone is saying.

Oh and speaking of women and porn; this comic is hilarious!